The basic idea behind manifesting and the law of attraction is that if you spend enough time thinking about something, you will subconsciously act in ways that make that thing more likely to happen. But I’m sure I’m not the only daydreamer who has spent months – years sometimes – daydreaming that something would happen and it never did. So where are we going wrong? Is the law of attraction just a myth, or are we daydreamers going about it in the wrong way?
As I mentioned in a previous post, I think that, if you believe strongly enough in yourself and your abilities, you can achieve anything you want. So, the idea that focussing on a desired outcome increases the chances of it coming about makes sense to me. But I think there are several reasons why just daydreaming about something isn’t enough.
We’re not realistic
Daydreaming has no rules. We are free to change the universe as we see fit. Much of the time that’s half the fun. We are free to explore what-if scenarios and engineer random coincidences. If we’ve based a character on someone we know in real life, we’re free to make them act however we want to suit the plot. They don’t have to stay authentic to their real-world counterpart. We make the rules. The real world isn’t like that. The law of attraction may be powerful, but it doesn’t override the laws of physics and it can’t turn people into something they’re not.
We’re not ourselves
Many of us become someone else when we daydream. We have an alter ego who might be an idealised version of ourselves or might be someone else entirely. If we don’t see that person as an integral part of us, if we can’t identify with that alter ego when we are outside the daydream, then any manifesting that’s going on is confined to the daydream, because it’s happening to someone else, not to our real-world self. This can be a particular problem for those of us who daydream as an idealised version of ourselves, because we might not think that our real-world self is worthy of the experiences our idealised alter ego is having.
We’re too aware that our daydreams aren’t real
Even if we daydream about something that could plausibly happen in real life, we still know it’s only a daydream. We’ve spent our whole lives painfully aware of the fact that our daydreams aren’t real. So even if we start up a new daydream where we carefully keep everything realistic and plausible, we still don’t really think our daydream is going to come true in real life. Our daydream can be a very carefully crafted wish, but for the law of attraction to work, it needs to become an expectation.
So, what can we do? We are highly imaginative people. We spend hours creatively visualising fantastic experiences in incredible detail. That ought to give us a head start when it comes to manifesting. The skills are there – we just need to point them in the right direction. Now, I don’t know how this works. I’m still figuring it out myself, and I suspect in any case that it’s different for everyone. So I can’t promise that any of the following will help you to manifest the life of your dreams. But here are a few things that work for me.
- Get in touch with what you really want. We spend so long living in our heads that we often neglect to set real-life goals. Our daydreams can take us anywhere we want, but where do we really want to go?
- Remember that daydreaming isn’t manifesting, and manifesting isn’t daydreaming. If your daydream world is too fantastical and not in any way connected to your real life, it isn’t an appropriate place to manifest something real. That doesn’t mean you have to give up or change your daydreams, it just means you need to keep your daydreaming separate from your manifesting.
- Be realistic. There has to be a path from where you are now to where you want to be. If you can visualise that path clearly enough, the universe may step in to help you travel it. But it won’t create a path where there isn’t one.
- Live your dream. With daydreaming, it’s best to keep the daydream world and the real world clearly separated. But with manifesting, you have to do the opposite. You have to live, think and breathe as though that thing you want is already a reality. Use your daydreaming skills to take yourself into the future and experience what it is like once you have that thing, how it changes you, what it adds to your life. And then bring that experience into the present. Live as the person you will become. Feel the love, gratitude and abundance that are on their way to you. When you live as the person you want to be, you will naturally attract the life you want to live.