Why it’s good that it’s not real
Coming out of a daydream means you have to face the reality that what you were daydreaming about isn’t real. And perhaps, no matter how much effort you put into improving real life, it’s never …
Month: September 2023
Romance in a daydream and romance in real life – two totally different kinds of love
If you’ve ever daydreamed about romance – and most of us have – you’ll know it can feel amazing. It doesn’t matter that it isn’t real. It doesn’t even matter that the person you’re in …
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Why do we do so much background research?
Have you ever googled something random in an attempt to make your daydream more realistic? If so, you’re not alone. My personal weakness is houses. Even though almost all my daydream characters are fictional, they …
What exactly is the idealised self?
The tendency for daydreamers to become an idealised version of themselves in their daydreams was recognised in Professor Eli Somer’s original description of maladaptive daydreaming in 2002: “…respondents described the pleasure they take in picturing …